Learn from your mistakes to develop lateral thinking and get to the (your own) solution to the problem. Independently.
Teaching is not an easy thing, and if it is not for an educator or teacher – who is in a certain sense responsible for doing so because he has followed a course of study in this sense, – let alone a parent.
On the one hand, the expectations and desires that inevitably fall on one’s child, especially if it is unique. On the other hand, fear that faces suffering, and not just physical…
The truth is another… And that is to really help our children to grow we must teach them to think and not what or how to think. This was also said by an old adage that “All roads lead to Rome” and after all the hidden meaning is just that: behind a problem there is not a single solution, but many and the roads to get there can be different. All equally valid and effective.
Then it is worth encouraging your child to find his way in front of a difficulty, to get around the obstacle as he sees fit and “on the way he prefers”, we would dare say, so as to allow him to develop that creative or “lateral” thought as experts define it as the key to facing everyday problems, in everyday life at home, at school and at work (tomorrow).
From the mistakes many interesting discoveries have arisen and it is not certain that even from a mistake of our son can not be born something important for his future and for that of others.
From a cognitive point of view, faced with a problem to be solved, a series of physical and mental efforts are implemented, which in turn entail a mental process of change and adaptation. It is precisely this effort that obliges us (and this happens to our children) to put all our knowledge and experience in the field to arrive at the solution of the dilemma that obviously, always based on our experience, will be different for each of us. Different, but not wrong.
To meet the child, to help him by already providing the solution as if it were an absolute truth, precludes his ability to think and decide autonomously, avoiding cognitive thinking to evolve and develop.
The best we can do for them? Trust us, let them grow, we are available and let them go wrong. Because it is from mistakes that you learn and it is falling that you learn to get up.