The right to idle

For adults it is seen with a negative meaning of laziness and inactivity, for the child instead it is fundamental for develop his creativity and above all his autonomy.

One of the aspects that surprises us most about children’s lives is how rich and busy they are every day of the week. Between school, sport commitments, artistic activities, such as: music or theater, more and more children today find themselves with agendas that are not to envy those of mum and dad. It’s right? In our opinion, no.

As experts claim, it is important to ensure your child a good dose of “doing nothing”. Moments in which to do nothing that according to pediatricians & co. they are fundamental for the cognitive development of the brain, which uses them to regenerate and “order” the knowledge acquired up to that point.

During moments of calm (or boredom, because even this is needed in a child’s life!), In fact, the brain produces hormones such as oxytocin and serotonin which help it to feel better, to relax and to develop qualities such as creativity. The rediscovery of the slow rhythms, or of the otium as the Latins understood it, was fundamental, considering it as an invitation to reflection, useful for the development of ideas, as opposed to negotium, which indicated instead moments of occupation in the family, at work , at school, etc.

Today the “void”, understood as the absence of activity, is a concept with which children are less and less familiar, influenced by the tendency (mostly by parents) to fill the day, including weekends, with activities and stimuli. On the contrary, it is very important for a child to learn to manage boredom, even in solitude, to discover himself, what he likes best, his own personal attitudes. Moments in which to listen and discover things that, if “occupied”, there is no way to perceive.

Moreover, learning to manage boredom and the sense of emptiness predisposes the child to face them correctly even once he has grown up. The risk otherwise is to try to fill in the gaps, which inevitably arrive, with activities, not always healthy, unfortunately.

Advice? We put an hour of “boredom” on our son’s agenda: he and we too will gain it.

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